So again I have disappeared off the grid for a bit but I'm glad I'm actually taking the time to sit here and log in some blogging hours.
Despite being left alone here while the HTB (Husband To Be) is out of town, you'd expect that i'd be left with a lot of time on my hands. Unfortunately, with constant reminders that my upcoming nuptial is around the corner (this is subjective) I decided I'd better knuckle down and get some stuff confirmed before anything that I wanted got snapped up. Of course, one of the benefits of having the wedding on a Thursday and during the Hungry Ghost festival (obviously not superstitious) is that I kind of have the pick of the lot. Having said that, no special prices for anything and in the past week I have slowly watched our joint account go from nice numbers to less than satisfactory numbers (again, this is subjective).
In the end, I feel like I have gotten more done in the last week than I ever have since getting hitched. Its been a week of taking care of all the finer details, getting vendors for the actually reception and stuff that has made me both excited to be attending my own wedding and scared because it is my own wedding. Making some of the decisions with minor supervision is also quite daunting because I have a tendency to only want the best and will pay the price for it.
When the HTB and I decided to pay for our own wedding, we did so with the clear mind of setting a budget and sticking to it. While I am blessed that I am able to afford such an event with a fairly lenient budget (meaning I couldn't ask for more), its ridiculous how some vendors which cater for non wedding events have a different pricing when it comes to weddings! Why is that so??? Its not like you are going to work any harder or less during a wedding. Just because most people only marry once in their life so maybe you should get what you can now? It just did my head in! Its no wonder that couples end up going into debt just from the wedding.
In the end, while I was one of those brides that wanted her wedding to be most unique and the best and the grandest and...you get what I mean! Who am I trying to impress? After choosing the most overused theme of 2014, the year after my favourite college novel was turned into a movie and on the heels of Boardwalk Empire, the 1920's is making a huge comeback- there is no way that my wedding will be any of the above. But you know what? I DON'T CARE! It means all of the above to me and the HTB. And that's all that matters.
I'm cutting it crazy close to the budget but as long as everyone walks away feeling like they had fun- I would be happy. I can understand why the bride gets really loony before the wedding. Hence the reason why I am trying so hard to learn the art of letting go and live and let live!
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